How to be the life of the party.
Do you struggle with anxiety? Does it always seem like others are looking at you? Or are you just afraid that they may….notice you?
Social anxiety comes in all stages and in many forms from slight paranoia to full blown psychosis. The truth is we have all had moments of severe self doubt, even to a debilitating degree. Nowhere is this more evident than in the arena of public speaking. People were asked in a poll what there biggest fear was. And it wasn’t death…(that was in second place). It was (you guessed it). Public speaking. Seriously. Apparently, there are people who would rather die than speak in public. This tells me two things. Even normal, healthy people can be consumed with debilitating fear when it comes to intense social encounters and secondly, most people do NOT have practice in speaking in public. And I don’t think this just applies to holding a microphone. Because the truth is, while many social people are sort of nervous when speaking in public, they aren’t SO nervous that they would rather die than speak publicly.
I have a compelling theory…could it be that we have a nation of socially awkward technoids who are more comfortable texting than talking? I’m not sure what else could explain the huge numbers of people who would rather die than speak to an audience.
Now, when I was in school, public speaking was mandatory. I mean, you just couldn’t escape elementary school without reading an oral report at least five separate times before middle school. And in Jr. High, everyone took speech class because the other class options were too academic, and speech wasn’t as hard as, say, Civics class, etc. Now, however, it appears that schools do not stress this as much. Society certainly doesn’t. When a significant number of teens report that they are more comfortable texting their friends than sharing actual face time (not Facebook, but face to face time) then we know we have a generation of kids that are going to grow up socially stunted.
I would like to offer some suggestions to overcoming social awkwardness RIGHT NOW.
Pretend you’re a celebrity. Truly. When people are watching you, or at least you are sure they are, bask in it. Smile broadly, flip your hair, snap your finger and extend two thumbs up toward them. Go over the top and buy into the fact that, Babe, you got it going on…you are a celebrity! This one sure tip is a life saver because it doesn’t talk you out of what you are sure of (they are all STARING at me!!) and teaches you how to lean into the lie rather than fight it (yea Babe, it really is true…you just aren’t that important to the masses).
If you are twitching and squirming inside when you go out in public, try dressing…and acting…like a celebrity. And then tell me how it worked for you.
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Reader, are you struggling with keeping your reader engaged? Do you find it difficult to get your followers to keep following your blog? If you think that your readership is suffering, and you are running out of juice for blog posts, than its time to learn how to build rapport through blogging.
Smart business owners know that people are twice as likely to buy if they like you. And there’s almost no surer way to get a following of people to like you than to get followers on your blog. But how is that done?
In my four part mini series “Building Rapport Through Blogging” I’ll show you how to:
- Connect with your reader by sharing your struggles
- Garner empathy by pulling back the curtain of your soul
- Speak your reader’s language
And you’ll learn how to do all of this without coming across as cheesy or unprofessional.
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Selling what you love:Reason number one: You are going to be exposed to it every day. If you are shipping out sparkplugs everyday, and you have no interest in them, you’ll get bored. But if you are selling something you make and love, you will enjoy it more.
Reason number two: If you have no passion for your product, you will lose interest in promoting it. Think about it; how are you going to sound jazzed about a product you are promoting if you have no interest in it?
Reason number three: if your product promotion involves writing e-zines, reviews, or posting articles every day, you are going to run out of things to say unless you know about your product and/or research your product. If you aren’t in love with your product or well acquainted with it, you writing juices will run dry. And people will feel it.
It’s not all about the money. And even if it were, you won’t make much if the passion isn’t there. Before you jump on the “what product will make me the most money” caravan, find the best product for you personally.
- an actual product. This means something you can hold in your hand, and ship yourself.
- Refer to rule number one if you are an affiliate marketer
- Make sure it’s a product that at least one hundred people in the world use…
- and would pay more for (as an example, there are thousands of Amish, but they make their own buggy whips, so that would not be a good product).
- Try to pick a product you are interested in. It helps prevent burnout. So, for example, if you are a mechanic, don’t try to sell wigs and makeup. A lot of marketers choose things like health care because they think that they will make a lot of money. But you need to choose something you are passionate about.
- Pick a market that is not saturated. When you get better at marketing, you can get into a more competitive field.
- Get a really good internet education, and make your sales platform the very best it can be! It’s all right here