A Healthy Mind

We’ve all seen those commercials where some buff person strolls out sipping some smoothie. The camera rolls and shows like 15 cucumbers and a whole head of brocolli crammed into one pill or drink. We’re told that if we just take this pill, or drink this shake, then we will be powerhouses. Reader, does that seem right to you? Does it really make sense to fortify your body with mega doses of food that you would never be able to chug down naturally? The wierd part of this scene is, they always leave out the water. As in, that powder that they stir in the shake, it’s dehydrated food. Gallons and gallons of water have been extracted to make that supplement. Reader, does that seem right to you? Doesn’t it seem like to make all of that food work, it should have the accompanying water necessary to transport those glorious nutrients into your cells?

At this point during the commercial, everyone in my family is howling, “how can anyone eat healthy…it takes up too much space in your stomache.” But then, we stop and think about and must admit, yea, if we didn’t eat the twinkies and ho hos, well;;  maybe there would be room.

Most thinking people will conclude that eating a reasonable healthy diet on a daily basis makes more sense then cramming.  Binging.  And doing penance with a week of health shakes.

I have found this same concept to be true with our mental health.  People are always told “think positive!” and then, the person saying this gives out a list of affirmations to quote. Now that would be great…if they could just walk around all day listening to it. But what tends to happen is, the motivational tapes play for 30 minutes at night, and then the student wakes up, rushes to work in a toxic environment with crap playing on the radio. They roar home listening to nothing but death on the six oclock news, and when they get home, they watch a horror movie. Talk about binge dieting!

Reader, did you know that just as your body needs proper food to stay healthy, so does your mind? The problem is, how do we know what is good for our bodies…or our mental health? We do know that lots of fat and sugar aren’t supposed to be good for us. And we do know that lean meats, dairy in moderation, and health carbs, along with fresh produce are awesome for our health.

Pop and technology

In our house, I have found that eliminating soda pop (called “soft drinks” in some parts of the world) and turning off gadgets, frees our minds and bodies up to eat healthier things.

WiFi and french fries

I recently pulled the plug on the WiFi at my house. Too many family members were walking around like zombies, glued to their smart phones….or missing in separate rooms, eating dinner alone. I begged. I pleaded. Threatened. Bribed. I’d call the kids out for something and 30 seconds later, they would dash to their room for snap chat time. This took all night just to get everyone together. Finally, after another wasting evening choralling everyone together, I’d had enough. The next morning, all of the kids were wandering around like displaced fruit flies, looking for the missing melon.

Whining turned to snapping. Snaping turned to snarling. And it hit me…your kids are addicts.  (stay tuned for part 2…..

“Google says I’m dying”

stethoscope and keyboard of a computerThat’s what I heard on someone’s blog once, but it’s not what you think…this woman joked that if you enter your symptoms into Google, you will become convinced after the first two webpages you visit, that your end is near.

That’s the humor in forming a diagnosis based on incomplete information. And that’s what many of you do…you think you aren’t a success because you aren’t getting a lot of

“likes”, traffic, or people signing up for your newsletter. But any one of these things, on their own, is not necessarily an indicator of how good your business has been set up.

Remember, you only need people to visit you, who actually end up buying your product…eventually

See, a lot of people get ALL stressed out because their competitor has more likes than them…more sign ups than they do… or they are getting way more traffic.

But what they DON”T realize is, none of these factors guarantee the most important thing in internet marketing…getting the sale.

Plenty of people get plenty of likes, plenty of followers, and plenty of traffic, but not one single person has ever bought their product.

I know, because they tell me. (Remember, I’m an online coach). And I meet people all of the time who have the most awesome sales funnel you could possibly imagine…but they aren’t making any sales.

They are constantly stressing over rankings, click through rates, and how they can get more comments. But guess what? Not one of these things ensures the sale. The truth is, it takes many factors, usually, before someone buys. But it’s not an exact science. Remember, spiders crawl the world wide web, but humans are the actual ones who make the buying decision. That’s why some rules don’t apply in some circumstances.

Sometimes, a marketer does everything right, but they have an annoying pop up ad that drives everyone away from an otherwise perfect experience.

Some marketers are themselves annoying, and build the site around their annoying online presence.

Or, they look unprofessional and incompetent, and their website’s exit rate shows it (exception…the Lazy Stoner)

Or, they brag, brag, brag, and even though have proof, no one likes them, so no one stays (though, there are exceptions…like the Rich Jerk)

And here’s the most important point I want to drive home for you…if you are a marketer and you do absolutely every single thing right, following all of the checklists out there, it is highly likely there will be some exception to the rule in your situation, or (more likely) a gaping hole, somewhere, in your marketing plan. And guess what? You won’t see it, because, (here it is)

We ALL have blind spots.

And I want you to know that, as a marketing coach, one of the hardest things for me to do is to hold back from giving free information….free advice…free feedback, to those of you who who desperately need it…and don’t even know it.

Aren’t we all like that? Don’t we all want to wipe the nose of that stranger who has something hanging from their nose? Or at least point it out? Well, maybe you don’t feel that way, but as a mother, I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to scrub another mother’s child’s face, because.. well, because I’m a mother, and I care.

It’s the same way as an internet marketer. People follow my blog who could be doing so much better online if they’d just do x, y and z. It’s hard not to tell them so.

But I’ve learned from experience, that free advice is not cherished, not followed, and is even resented by most people who are too proud to get a second opinion.

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Why your readers love or hate your blog

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People don’t visit your blog to buy something. They read it to

a. Read interesting stories

b. Meet interesting people and then

C. To connect with you. (continue reading)

The Free Sample Mentality

The Free Sample Mentality

(You all know how this free sample stuff works…at the store they give you free samples and then, if you like it, they ask if you want to buy some, and they have a little cooler right there, so that they can hand you a box of the stuff to buy on the way out).

I’ll never forget when I was living on a shoestring 15 years ago, and my friend Tawana took me and some friends to Sam’s Club after church. I insisted that I was too hungry to go without stopping for lunch first. The only problem was, I had no lunch money.
“Look”, I told her, “let me go home first and eat”.

“Nah,,,you won’t need to buy anything”.

Now, this girl was bold. Because when I got to Sam’s club, I saw her leave us, the group, with our carts, and go back FIVE TIMES to the hot wings sample counter to get all of us free samples. I’m not kidding.

Then, she proceeded to bring me a tray of seafood puff pastries that were just about the most heavenly hors d’ourves I had ever eaten.  After I squealed in delight, I kid you not, she very disarmingly crooned another plate of this stuff from the sample guy. “Yea, my friend says these are the best she’s ever eaten, and she hasn’t had lunch yet…” Then she asked for a box of them, and we walked away with some samples and some boxes of them which we put in our carts.

I think you know what happened next. In between bites of six different appetizers now turned entrees (due to the volume of plates I was juggling), I informed her, under my breath, that there was NO WAY I could buy those appetizers she’d just placed in my shopping cart. She just dimpled, nodded, and continued her round of sample schmoozing.

And on the way out of Sam’s club, she deposited five boxes of various frozen foods into a stray cooler.

No way would she ever buy… she was far too good at fringing the fields.

 

In case you don’t know it yet, “fringing the fields” is an Old Testament term used to describe the Almighty’s righteous welfare system. Landowners were commanded to leave the corners of their fields unharvested so that the poor could discreetly come and pick some of the harvest, without disturbing the peace of the owner or trespassing on the field. It would be today’s equivalent of a homeless person reaching up and snapping off an apple from a tree overhanging the sidewalk.

And it was expected. When you give away free information, you can expect that there are going to be people who snatch up your free information in the hopes of getting a real education. You can’t be sure that all of your customers are going to buy, just because you gift them with free samples. Many will, because it’s going to be far more convenient to have your latest tutorial on their hard drive, than to pour over 100 free emails every week.

But a lot of very new marketers won’t be able to afford anything. Or, they believe that if they just dig long enough, they will find their information for free, somewhere on the internet. And, they probably will. They will be a nomad, going from free sample to free sample, looking for a snippet here and there. Will it be enough to get them a lucrative online business? Maybe, if they don’t starve while searching.

Some prospects don’t have a choice; I always tell people, if you can’t afford a real internet marketing education, don’t waste your time getting free “information samples”. Get a job at McDonalds, and save up to buy at least one comprehensive, internet marketing training course.

Am I recommending mine? Not necessarily. You need to find a program or system that meets your needs.

That you can afford.

And that you can trust.