How to make a New Year’s Resolution that works

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The biggest problem with New Year’s resolutions is bait and switch.

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about New Year’s Resolutions lately and their astronomical failure rates.

I would like to share some of my insights with you.

One of the things I have noticed is the mis-defining of what a resolution is.

A new year’s resolution is not a daily resolve, but a year long resolve.

Here’s how to create a resolution that a has a hope in hades of surviving.

Think about planning a plan, rather than just a vague absolute.

So what exactly is a vague absolute? Is that just an oxymoron?

Nope. See, most goals are really vague (like “be happy”) AND absolute

As in “be happy every day”.

A better “resolution” would be “Find out what makes me happy, and then GO for it”

After you do the first part, give yourself a week to plan out HOW to do it.

For example: this year, I want to be happy. I want to find out what makes me happy. And then, I want to do, every day, what it takes to make me happy.

The biggest problem with New Year’s resolutions is bait and switch.

Let me explain. A resolution is just something that you resolve.

The only thing you need to do to have a resolution is just an inward resolve that you are going to do something.

A New Year’s resolution is just something that you resolve to do in the New Year.

And a year is a long  time to achieve that.

Resolve what you would like to accomplish this year.

Resolving that you want to do push-ups every day for a year is not a good resolution.

That’s an “everyday resolution”, not a goal for the new year as a whole.

Yes, you can do push-ups every day, but that’s not your new years resolution… your new years resolution should be your “why”. Why do you want to do push-ups? To get a flat belly. That’s your new years’ resolution: to get a flat belly.

Remember, a New Year’s resolution is just something you resolve to achieve this year.

As long as your belly gets flat, you have met your new years resolution.

Breaking that resolution down into Quarterly, monthly goals, etc., comes after the resolution.

Remember, you’re not resolving to do push ups each day. You’re resolving to get a flat belly this year.

Why do we set ourselves up for failure each year? It’s because we mistake a resolution with a daily goal.

Very few people who get a flat belly do pushups every single day without fail. That’s because life happens.

When we mistake a resolution for a goal, we quit the first time we hit a hard day. Oh. I missed pushups today. I “broke” my New Year’s resolution.

No you didn’t. You can still be “resolved”, as in determined, to achieve that goal.

Remember, a New Year’s resolution is just something you resolve to achieve this year.

Write down what you have resolved to accomplish BY THE END OF THE YEAR.

Break that down into Seasonal goals. For example, take that waistline measurement and subtract what measurement you want your waist to be, from that. If you have, for example, a forty inch waist, but you think you can make it 32 inches, do the math; you need to get from 40 inches to 32 by December 31st.

So, decide how many inches or centimeters you need to loose each month, and develop an action plan.

Now, you need to know that just because you don’t meet your goal the first month, doesn’t mean that you won’t reach your year in goal. When I first started doing push ups, I could only do three. By the third day, I could do eight. By the end of the week, I was doing 20. At months end, I could do fifty.

See, sometimes your goals will wax and wane in spurts. Daily goals shouldn’t be something you beat yourself up over, because A. they are not good indicators of your chance of success and B. they are not resolutions. You need over-all goals AND daily goals to help you get there.

Remember…you aren’t a failure if you miss a day or two (or three  or four. Or even a whole month learning this stuff). You are only a failure if you stop trying to reach your YEARLY resolution.

Keep the end in mind and the daily goals will happen.

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How to Stop Procrastining

We all do it.

But why? Why do we put off doing what we know we need to do?

Let’s cover the “why” and then the “how”.

5 Reasons why you procrastinate

Reason number one for procrastinating:

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Let’s face it, sometimes a task is so gross, so gnarly, so time-consuming or complicated, that it cramps our brain even to think about it. This is one of the reasons why some people shove the task to the back side of their brain…it’s just too painful to think about.

You want to do it, but you are overwhelmed

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Yea, I think we’ve all been at this place. Overload is a key reason for putting things off, even when we know it’s important.

Procrastination reason number 3.

You don’t think it’s a big enough priority to do it now..

“Why do today what can be done tomorrow?”

Many procrastinators think this way. Unless their backside is in flames, they prefer to wait….and wait…and wait. The good news is, many of these midnight hour, crunch-time types actually work better under pressure (which is not very comforting to more rigid personality type planners, but it works for them).

…or ever

Some people who are accused of procrastinating are not actually procrastinators. It’s just that, they have no intention of ever doing the task. But somehow, they know that society expects them to

Go back to school

Lose 10-pounds or even

Clean that top shelf

So to make people empathize with them, they join the ranks of “someday I’m going to” stop smoking, get rid of this old piece of furniture, or…whatever it may be. Probably, they are not bothered all that much with their habit, weight, or less than perfect lifestyle. But it makes them fit in to complain with the others and set resolutions they have no intention of reaching…or even trying to.

Sometimes people procrastinate doing something, because they want attention…

We’ve all heard the story of the kid that misbehaves because they are being neglected by mom and dad. In relationships, some adults do this, because if their partner never had a complaint, they’d both never talk to one another.

…Or because, they resent having to do it.

This is not to say that the task is something that they dislike, or even that it is something that they wouldn’t cheerfully do, if weren’t for…the grudge. Yes that’s right, many heel-draggers consciously or subconsciously put off a task that they really don’t mind working on, just because they resent being told that they must do it. Sometimes the request is a reasonable one, but the person asked to do it, doesn’t think it’s fair. Or sometimes, the reason that the procrastinator won’t do the task, has nothing to do with resenting the task, but with driving the other person crazy….because of a long standing grudge that they have toward that person. That’s called Passive Aggression, and you can  learn more about that here

I talk all about these behaviors and how to get over them in my  eBook

“How to finally Stop Procrastinating”

The truth is, procastination costs all of us time, money, and emotional freedom.

In my ebook, I show you practical ways to get motivated and get ‘er done.

And here’s a good reason not to put this off…it’s 100% free; for right now, anyway.  So don’t wait–grab it while you still can– before it costs you.

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